I remember being in a relationship years ago.. I was about 20-21 and the guy I was dating labeled me as his main chick. He went on dates with me, took me around the family, and showed me off! All the while he messed around with other women as well but they didn’t get the “privileges” I got. The other girls would be in my inbox, calling me, texting me but I thought I was better than them. “Babygirl, I’m wifey! you’re not seen out with him, he not claiming you, I got his heart on lock honey fall back and keep being the side piece” HOW STUPID WAS I?? But was that me back then? ABSOLUTELY!! I was giving my worth away to a man that really and truly cared nothing about me. So I ask you ladies.. How much are you worth? Yes, I said it? How much can a person do for you to make you let your standards fall by the wayside? You may be thinking “well that’s not me.. I wouldn’t dare let a man play me like that” Ok, that may not be your struggle but what is?
Are you allowing yourself to take stuff from relationships that you know you don’t deserve out of fear of being lonely? Is he sooo fine that you just keep taking him lying to you? Does he serve in the church and LOOKS like the good christian man you been praying for so you overlook him always trying to get you in the bedroom in private? Or maybe he’s not ready to commit and been having you waiting around for years but out of fear of starting over you stay. Maybe it’s not men period. Are you struggling to keep up with all your girlfriends so you go out spending money you don’t have on designer purses, name brand clothes, and the latest MAC lipstick just so they can say… “ooooohhh sis, you on fleek girl! yaassss” WHAT ARE YOU WORTH???
We have to stop trying to fit in this little box that this world has made us think we have to be in. You are worth so much more than that. No man, no friendship, no career, no title should EVER make you sale yourself short of who you are. If you’re struggling with who you are in Christ then maybe you need to tell ol buddy, your girlfriends, whoever that you need some time to yourself. If you don’t know who God says that you are you will allow anything to be said and done to you. See when you don’t know all God has called you to be you will let people decide where you go because since they going on a girls night out you feel obligated to go even though you don’t need to be in that club because you know God is calling you higher, you go around that crowd where all they do is gossip, you over drafting your account because you know you didn’t have the money for it but you went anyway. You let that man determine when he wants to see you, when he wants to lay down with you and please his flesh when he hasn’t acknowledge you all week. You see out of fear of people saying girl don’t invite her she always broke, out of fear of rejection, out of fear of that man cheating on you or leaving you if you don’t give up the cookie you lower your worth to accommodate his needs. AGAIN, LADIES WHAT ARE YOU WORTH??
God is a jealous God and he don’t want you worshiping all these things because you want to fit in and be accepted. When he tell you that season of friendships/relationship is over you hang on to them out of fear of being alone. When he tells you not to take a certain job you take it anyway because of the pay. we must stop obeying and pleasing everyone else besides God.
So I encourage you no to look for this world to tell you how much you are worth. The TV shows, the degrading music, the unfulfilling relationships you’re in. BREAK FREE FROM THOSE THINGS! You are worth so much more than what you settle for. Don’t let satan entice your flesh with these temporary things. God wants to give you so much more here on this earth and eternally but you first have to submit to him and allow him to create a new in you. I was so lost and willing to let a man label what I was worth by what I ALLOWED him to do to me, I went places, purchased things, and acted a certain way out of fear of not being able to keep up with my “friends” DON’T LET THAT BE YOU. Pick up your standards RIGHT NOW and don’t feel guilty about raising them. If people can’t meet them then they obviously think you’re not worth it.
So sis, You’re beautiful, amazing, smart, and you deserve to be loved. You deserve to have people in your life to push you to Christ not away from him, people who will pray for you, people who will accept you for who you are and not try to make you be something you’e not just to fit in their little click. So I’m praying for you that you believe that you are fearfully and wonderfully made in the eyes of God and you begin to make the necessary changes in your life to show just how amazing you truly are. I love you all soooo much.
To know God is to have found real love