No wed, no bed!!!

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Flee from sexual immorality. Every other sin a person commits is outside the body, but the sexually immoral person sins against his own body. Or do you not know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit within you, whom you have from God? You are not your own, for you were bought with a price. So glorify God in your body.  1 Corinthians 6:18-20

At what price are you giving yourself away? In other words… what does a man have to do to get a whole of your body? Sis, God did not knit you together in your mothers womb to create you to sleep around. So what excites you enough to feel as though a man deserves a piece of you before he make you his wife? Sweet promises whispered into your ear about how he loves you and you’re the only one for him? Selling you a dreams of how “ONE DAY” you’ll be his wife? Shopping sprees, spontaneous vacations, “just because” gifts, shoes, outfits, (insert your price here)>>> _________? He’s man enough to date you for years, lay down with you whenever he wants, and claims he can’t buy the car without a test drive…. well honey let me tell you this. A REAL MAN will find, court, and pursue you with the intentions on marrying you. He won’t be wasting your time nor his and he certainly won’t be claiming to have to test drive the car before he drives it. You’re not some car to be test driven. YOU ARE A DAUGHTER OF A KING and the kind of man you marry will treat you as such because he know who you are and whose you are and he won’t dare misuse what he know belongs to God.

I know you probably thinking “OK Miracle, I hear you… but were you a virgin when you got married?” Well sis I’m glad you asked but ummmmmm ABSOLUTELY NOT!!!!! I was a broken young woman who looked for love in ALL the wrong places. I truly wish I had this amazing story of how I saved myself for my now husband and how beautiful it was to enter into marriage a virgin but that’s not my story.  I thought giving my body away to my little boyfriend meant he would see my loyalty to him, love me more, do me right, make him marry me, and keep him from running around cheating on me. I WAS WRONG!! If you don’t already know.. it doesn’t matter how loyal you are to a man, how you a ride or die chick, or how good you think your sex game is… it does not make a man commit, love, be faithful, or put a ring on your finger. If he loves you then he’ll love you enough to make you his WIFE instead of playing house. There’s no judgment here because for years I struggled with sexual immorality. That’s why I’m so passionate about this blog because i want my sisters to know that you’re worth sooooooo much more than lying on your back for some man. Jesus died for you He payed the ultimate sacrifice… so no man should be able to tell you that he can’t trade in his bachelor card and pay the price for you in asking for your hand in marriage. YOUR ARE WORTH THAT PLUS MORE. If he claims he’s just not sure about marriage yet, you’re it he just needs more time, or whatever else. Cool! I’m not saying to not wait for him if you feel as though he is Gods best for you then by all means sis wait. But make sure he knows If you’re good enough to lay down with you are good enough to wait for until marriage. NO WED, NO BED!!!!!!!!!!!!

If you’re currently in a relationship and you find yourself playing house, having sex out of fear that he might leave you, or maybe you know premarital sex is wrong but you don’t have the will power to stop I encourage you to sit at Jesus feet and ask Him for help. If you find no fault in it then ask God to help bring conviction to your heart so that you can repent, turn from your ways, and do better. I will say this… it’s not to late for you and your boyfriend or fiance to set boundaries and do better in the relationship.

My husband and I did not start off the right way. I met him when I was still a lost little girl looking for love. Thankfully I was planted in a church that was not afraid to preach on sin. I remember being at a women’s conference and the pastor was preaching on sexual sins. It hit me like a ton of bricks. I knew it was wrong but that was the first time I actually felt convicted and wanted to change. Afterwards, I went to my husband (boyfriend at the time) and told him look we can’t do this anymore. I told him what we were doing was a sin and I could no longer WILLINGLY sin. He agreed. It was good for a while and a few weeks later we were right back in the bed together (I literally would cry afterwards because i KNEW it was wrong)… But you know why we were right back in the bed? There were no boundaries set. You see you can’t go on doing what you were doing before. In 1 Thessalonians 5:22 it says that we are to abstain from the appearance of evil. So all the night caps, cuddling all close on the couch, making out, and all the other stuff had to cease. You light a spark eventually you will create a fire. 1 Corinthians 10:13 says that with temptation God will provide a way of it. So, when your little boo come hitting you up after hours talking about let’s chill. That’s temptation and you have the chance right there to RUN from temptation or fall right into it. what will you choose??? (That just hit me so obviously one of my sisters needed that) So, we end up breaking up BUT eventually we both wanted to do right and loved each other deeply. We got back together, repented of our sins TOGETHER, he proposed and about 2 months later we got married. Was it hard? YEESSSS!!! But we wanted to please God more than our flesh. So don’t lose hope sis. You choose to do the right thing and if he break things off because you choose to not give it up… So be it!!! He showed you what was more important. God will send His best for you! YOU JUST HONOR HIM WITH YOUR BODY.

I heard this quote and I’ll end the blog with this. “Keep your heels high and your standards higher. Love you all so much and I pray this blog convicts you enough to repent and do better.  You honor God and He will honor you. Remember, NO WED; NO BED!!!!!!

Flee from sexual immorality. Every other sin a person commits is outside the body, but the sexually immoral person sins against his own body. Or do you not know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit within you, whom you have from God? You are not your own, for you were bought with a price. So glorify God in your body.  1 Corinthians 6:18-20

It is God’s will that you should be sanctified: that you should avoid sexual immorality; that each of you should learn to control your own body in a way that is holy and honorable, 1 Thessalonian 4:3-4

“If you love me, you will keep my commandments. John 14:15

 

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Resisting temptation

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Are you resisting temptation or are you falling right into the tricksters hands? Satan knows what to do and who to use to get you right where he wants you.

Sis think about it….  how many times have you got out that bed with your lil boo… when you were just repenting crying out to God the night before about how sorry you was and that you wouldn’t ever do it again. He comes with his sweet words, gifts, or whatever else and you’re right back where you said you wouldn’t be. Maybe a man isn’t your problem. Are you being tempted with drugs and alcohol? Has the Holy Spirit convicted you about intoxicating your mind but you place yourself around people that’ll influence you or go places you know your flesh can’t handle itself ? Is it food? You place yourself on  diet and make a commitment to workout 3 times a day to become healthier. Next thing you know you’re on your way to the gym… you see a billboard for Wendy’s 4 for 4 (or whatever restaurant you like that got a deal going) and you just about wreck trying to swerve into the drive in. Or do you fall into temptation while spending time with God. You got your notebooks, Bible, and worship music going then your notifications start going off for all your social media sites.. You become distracted so your alone time with God turns into an hour of scrolling on social media.

If you’re not struggling with anything I listed above I can guarantee that if you examine your life, you’ll find that you’re being tempted somewhere. The important thing isn’t what you’re being tempted with; my question to you is how are you handling the temptation? If I can suggest one thing it’ll be to not trust yourself , meditate on Gods word (I’ll tell you why on down) and to PRAY!!!

In Matthew 26:41 it says that we should watch and pray because the spirit is willing but the flesh is weak. Which mean I can’t trust my flesh. I found this to be true when I first got saved and begin to change my life. I loved to get drunk and turn up in the club. While I knew God had already spoken to me about my drinking I told myself “Well I’ll drink, I just want drink that much” or I would get invited out to a get together out a house and I’ll lie to myself “Miracle you can go girl just because everybody else turning up don’t mean you have to.. control yourself girl” Ummm yeah EPIC FAIL! No drink turned into.. “ok I’ll have just 1!” Then 1 turned into 2, then 3….. well you get the point!

I couldn’t control myself in certain environments and once I begin to allow God to do a work in me I stopped going. Did I lose friends?  Well yeah, but pleasing God was more important to me than losing “friends”. Real friends will accept the change God is doing in you and no longer invite you places that will tempt your flesh. Even if they are not yet where God has you. Same thing for you sis. If you can’t control yourself in certain environments. Don’t go! If you’re lil boo invite you over all late at night wanting to “watch movies”. Don’t go! Sis, you know that’s a setup for failure. If you’re going to have alone time with God… cut your phone off so you don’t become distracted. If someone is making a subliminal post about you on Facebook and you ready to hop on there and go off (really making yourself look  just as petty and crazy as them… Let’s be real about it) log off, pray, and ask the Lord to vindicate you from your enemies.

The Bible say that we should stay away from ALL appearance of evil (1 Thessalonians 5:22)… so sis if you know you’re headed towards temptation or you’re already in to deep. Stop what you doing and RUN!!!! Get out of there. It’s just that serious. You never know where it’ll lead you. I always tell myself that I can’t afford to be caught doing something God didn’t tell me to do, saying things he wouldn’t  like me to say, or being somewhere I have no place being. I’m focused and I have no time to allow my flesh to do, say, or be where it wants to be. NEITHER DO YOU!! You control your flesh; don’t let it run you.

Above I explained how important it is to meditate on Gods word. It’s important because when tempted by satan and your own flesh desires if you can’t take those thoughts (because it always start with a thought) captive once it hit your mind and defeat it with the sword of the spirit which is Gods word (Ephesians 6:17) how do you expect to overcome it?

Let’s look at how Jesus was tempted in the wilderness.

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Then Jesus was led by the Spirit into the wilderness to be tempted by the devil. After fasting forty days and forty nights, he was hungry. The tempter came to him and said, “If you are the Son of God, tell these stones to become bread.” Jesus answered, “It is written: ‘Man shall not live on bread alone, but on every word that comes from the mouth of God.’ Then the devil took him to the holy city and had him stand on the highest point of the temple. 6“If you are the Son of God,” he said, “throw yourself down. For it is written:“ ‘He will command his angels concerning you,and they will lift you up in their hands,so that you will not strike your foot against a stone.’ Jesus answered him, “It is also written: ‘Do not put the Lord your God to the test. Again, the devil took him to a very high mountain and showed him all the kingdoms of the world and their splendor. 9“All this I will give you,” he said, “if you will bow down and worship me.” 10 Jesus said to him, “Away from me, Satan! For it is written: ‘Worship the Lord your God, and serve him only. 11 Then the devil left him, and angels came and attended him.

You see how Jesus was full of the word ready and willing to throw it back at satan whenever tempted/tested. I don’t know about you but it totally motives me to want to do the same.

So I just want to encourage you, if you have areas in your life where you being tempted and you can’t seem to overcome it. Study scriptures on those areas, meditate on them, and the next time you’re tempted…. Fight back with the word. I truly believe that if you submit to God resist the devil. HE WILL FLEE!!!! (James 4:7)

I love ya’ll so much! Keep pressing!

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