Controlling the tongue can be sooooo hard to do. I found this being one of the hardest things to do once I gave my life to Christ. Why? Because for years I allowed anything to come out of mouth. I cursed ALL THE TIME! I felt like I couldn’t properly get my point across if I wasn’t cursing the person out that upset me. I gossiped about other peoples business but would be ready to fight if I heard anyone discussing anything about me (how backwards is that??). I was quick tempered and once angry there was no telling what would flow out of my mouth next. There was nothing that came out of my mouth that would please God nor bring him glory.
Can you relate at all? Come on sis be honest….there’s no judgment here! My only goal is to be real and transparent so that you to will won’t to break free from these bad behaviors that we adopt as our own. While doing a bible study I came across a section in my study bible that said “The four tongues”. God really shook the foundation on which my tongue had been operating in for YEARS… and hooonnneeyyyyy!!! Did he reveal my ugly self to ME!!! Let’s take a look shall we..
THE FOUR TONGUES:
THE CONTROLLED TONGUE: Those with this speech pattern think before speaking, know when silence is best, and give WISE advice.
THE CARING TONGUE: Those with this speech pattern speak TRUTHFULLY while seeking to ENCOURAGE.
THE CONNIVING TONGUE: Those with this speech pattern are filled with wrong motives, gossip. slander, and a desire to twist truth.
THE CARELESS TONGUE: Those with this speech pattern are filled with lies, curses, quick-tempered words which can lead to rebellion and destruction.
Sis, which of the four tongues are you operating in RIGHT NOW?!? Don’t put yourself down if it’s the last two (The conniving & careless tongue). Just recognize and choose to change. Ask God to help you change the condition of your heart FIRST! What’s in your heart will come out of your mouth (Luke 6:45). The process of changing your heart will NOT be easy. When I asked God to change my heart and speech. WHEW!!! I got put in some pretty difficult situations. Situations that I would normally gossip, slander, curse, lie and cause destruction. I now had to CHOOSE to do something different. I started saying “Oh the devil is testing me today. Get behind me satan”. BUT THAT WAS NOT SATAN. How did I expect God to help me change my speech if I never got put in situations that challenged me to do better.
SIGNS OF AN UNTAMED TONGUES:
If you find yourself gossiping, slandering, putting others down, bragging and being self righteous, manipulating others with your words to get your way, false teaching and the twisting of Gods word to fit whatever it is you want, exaggerating, complaining, and lying.. TO NAME A FEW!!!! Sis I urge you to make a change and seek to want better for yourself.
BEFORE YOU SPEAK ASK YOURSELF:
- Is what I’m about to say true?
- Is it necessary?
- Is it kind?
- Is it edifying those listening?
- Will it stir up anger/conflict
The tongue is a flame of fire and fire destroys. Be careful how you use it. You can’t control nor reverse the damage of a uncontrolled tongue.
Father, I repent for the many times I used my tongue to tear people down rather than edify them with my words. I repent for every unwholesome talk that has came out of my mouth and every lie that I’ve told. Father I thank you for the Holy Spirit convicting power of revealing my wicked ways to me. Lord i belong to you and i want to look more like you, sound more like you so that people will recognize who I belong to by the powerful edifying word that I choose to speak. Place me in situations that can get me into the habit of glorifying you with my words. Anytime that I slip into my old speaking habits I pray that I do not fall into condemnation but I quickly repent and get back to to controlled and caring tongue that you want me to have. Father I love you and I thank you for never giving up on me. I pray that I always draw strength from you to keep going no matter how tough this pruning process may get. In Jesus precious name I do pray. Amen!
SCRIPTURES TO MEDITATE ON:
James 3:6-And among all the parts of the body, the tongue is a flame of fire. It is a whole world of wickedness, corrupting your entire body. It can set your whole life on fire, fr it is set on fire by hell itself
Proverbs 10:19- To much talk leads to sin. Be sensible and keep your mouth shut.
Proverbs 10:32- The lips of the godly speak gives wise advice, but the tongue that deceives will be cut off.
Proverbs 12:19- Truthful words stand the test of time, but lies are soon exposed.
Luke 6:45- A good person produces good things from the treasury of a good heart, and an evil person produces evil things from the treasury of an evil heart. What you say flows from your heart.
Ephesians 4:29- Don’t use foul abusive language. Let everything you say be good and helpful, so that your words will be an encouragement to those who hear them.
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